Things I’ve Learned

I feel like I have learned so many new things this past week, so I thought I’d take a minute to share…

1. The world is a big place.  Like, really big.  It feels small because of how quickly and efficiently people and goods are able to travel, but in reality it is still a very large globe!  There are so many people on this planet whose culture and life and experience are worlds away from my own.  And, practically, I always knew that.  But being catapulted into a country across the ocean has made that real for me in a way that “Social Studies” just never could.

2. Want =/= Need.  I feel like I am telling my four year old this all the time.  Just because you want it, doesn’t mean you need it.  And although I’d like to think I know the difference, I’m beginning to see that I really, truly don’t.  So many of the comforts and stability I have back home are not here with me, and so much of the leisure time and frivolity that we enjoyed before this adoption will not be there when we get back.  I hope I can learn to pray “Lord, what is it that is needful, and will you give me only this?”

3. Access to never-ending, clean drinking water is a luxury.  I never used to give a second thought about my never-ending supply of clean drinking water… until we came here where the tap water will probably make us sick.  So we can only drink bottled beverages.  Having to plan out and purchase all of our drinking water, not wanting to buy too much because we have to pack and leave again in a few days, is quite the lesson!  Water has never even been a concern to me before, but now I am closely watching our stores, and always planning ahead for when and where we can buy more.  It is very different!

4. We are spoiled completely rotten.  Yup.  As soon as we stepped off the plane in this country it was obvious to me, Americans as a whole, functionally have no idea how the rest of the world lives.  I was in shock the first day.  We were in the middle of the capital, I was surely expecting “nicer” things.  It is more industrialized here and certainly more modern, but the buildings are still crumbling, the playgrounds are still unkempt and the world is still so different.  What we would consider impoverished living in America is just living here.  It’s typical.  It is so often easy to forget how incredibly rich we are in America, how rich even our poor and our beggars are!  We have so so much.  And as I tell my daughter so often, God gives us good things so that we can share them with others.

5. There are so many in need.  There are so many children in Juri’s orphanage that need mommies and daddies.  There are so many families fundraising for their adoptions right now.  There are mommies and daddies saying goodbye and planning funerals for their babies.  There is so much need in this world, and ours is tiny comparatively.  That’s why, today, to end my post I would like to share one of these needs with all of you, a need I learned about right as we were packing up to leave for our trip.

VictorA friend of mine from high school is currently in the process of adopting.  It’s not a typical adoption, they are working to get her husband’s son home from El Salvador.  She is adopting him, and they thought they had some time to save up while they worked toward getting him to the U.S.

Unfortunately, El Salvador is one of the most dangerous places in the world to live.  Their sweet boy is only ten years old and already being pressured to join the gangs there!  If a person refuses to join a gang, they are very often killed.  Her mama’s heart is understandably so worried for him.

I was heartbroken today to see that their fundraising page has not had a single dime donated.  I would love for us to be fully funded for our adoption, but I would love even more for my sweet friend to be shown some love during this scary time and difficult time!

As Rachel is a real-life friend of mine I can vouch for the legitimacy of her story and of their need.  If you feel led, please share, pray and pitch in!  You can make a donation at the link below:

Victor’s Journey to America


  1. Rachel Palfy says:

    Thanks so much! Dalas I love your post on your journey and long for that of my own which quickly approaches yet seems so VERY long away! Blessing and prayers to your amazing family!

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