Dusting off the blog tonight after a few weeks of hair-pulling madness around here. I think about writing every day and just never seem to sneak it in. The kiddos have decided that laying quietly for two hours is no longer their favorite thing, so finding writing time is a little difficult. I would just make them all lay down anyway but… sleeping at night goes SO much better if they are up and running during the day. I thought I needed that time for my sanity, unfortunately, the Lord may be telling me I’m ready for a level up. (Less rest more play.)
Lots and lots has been happening here. Jake was privileged to give a presentation to our local LWML chapters on adoption, which he absolutely loved. I have been doing nothing but trying to keep down the fort, which seems to be flying away more and more these days as I am able to put less and less effort into it. My third trimester is quickly approaching, and I’m definitely feeling the tension between my body telling me to slow down and my four littles telling me to speed up.
I had a midwife appointment yesterday and all is looking very well. She is such a dear lady and so encouraging, and gave me some good tips on how to know my limits and manage my days as a pregnant lady who does more lifting and chasing than recommended. ;) So no need to worry. I am being very well taken care of, and my husband is quick to pick up all the slack that I’m dropping when he’s able to be home. I love that man.
All of the children are doing so well right now. They play together as if they were never apart, and Jacob and Hope fit seamlessly into the chaotic, loving, rambunctiousness of our home. It certainly wasn’t like this at first, but the way they treat each other now, I couldn’t tell you which of them had been together from birth and which just came into our family three months ago.
Jacob got his brand new walker last week and he loves it… well he loves the idea of it. It’s hard work though! He doesn’t have a lot of stamina on his feet yet, and it’s cumbersome to move that big bulky thing around, even in our spacious home. So it will take some getting used to. His orthodics should also be on their way soon, and that is going to be another big milestone for him, as he takes on the enormous task of training his feet and legs to work properly.
Hope has not been doing much therapy, but her next PT appointment is on Thursday and I am so excited to share all her progress with her therapist! We have been seeing improvement in attaching. She actually is letting us hold her to calm her down now when she’s overstimulated. That’s huge! I think she’s beginning to prefer my arms to the felt safety of her stroller, and that just makes me beyond giddy.
Last week she reached two enormous milestones all in one day. First, she sat up unassisted for the first time! Our therapist told us she may be able to do it within a year… but three months?! Wow! What was holding her back was not weak muscles. She does have a ways to go there, but her biggest hurdle was an underdeveloped and damaged nervous system. When she came home she had next to no protective reflexes.
Now if she lurches forward while sitting she puts her hands in front of her body to catch herself. And it’s beginning to be a consistent reaction! Woohoo! The other day she did that with both hands while we were practicing a sitting position on the floor. I was supporting from behind, but she lost her balance, caught herself and sat unassisted for about two seconds! Of course, she hated it and threw herself back into me as quickly as she could collect her thoughts. But I praised her like crazy, and I’m sure she definitely just thought I was crazy. :P
That same day Jake came back from a drive with the kids and told me how she was actually playing with a toy in the car! She has always held toys and stimmed with them, but after a while home we realized that’s all she was doing… stimming. She was never actually playing, just using them as a way of zoning out or escaping her surroundings. But this time she wasn’t tapping, hitting or stimming with it at all. She was holding the toy out in front of her and purposely pressing individual buttons to hear them make different sounds!
My baby girl is learning to play!! Eeeeeeek! I just don’t know if I can emphasize what amazing, miraculous progress this is for her. It sounds so small, but for this nine year old treasure – it is huge. I have been asked if she’s done any more purposeful talking. Unfortunately, nothing yet, although she did repeat “baby” after Evangeline the other week. I still have hope for her learning some speech or communication. But right now she’s got quite a long way to go before we get there. Both kids need speech therapy, and that is the next thing on my list to find for them.
I promise I’ll try to be better about blogging. It’s hard, there are SO many things I’d love to write about and just so little time for all of them. God willing, more time will become available, but I only write when He grants me the time and if a break is what He thinks I need then that’s what we’re all going to have to live with for a while. But please know I think of this little blog and all my dear readers very often, and want very much to continue! If there is something you are especially hoping for me to write about soon, please let me know and I’ll make a note of it.